Many psychological issues can arise as a result of an inability to properly handle one’s emotions. Depression, anxiety, and short temperament, sudden emotional outbursts in inappropriate situations and places–just to name a few.  But to live a happy, balanced and fulfilled life, it is important to learn how to control your emotions.  Recent studies indicate flexibility is the key.

There is no one-size-fits-all in emotional situations. In the study led by Dr. Peter Koval, it was determined that the best levels of emotional health were found in people who altered their approach to fit each situation based on their ability to control the situation at hand.  In moments of limited control, they re-assessed the situation by taking a diverse approach to solving the problem.  However, in situations where there was better control over the outcome, their focus was toward that solution, and not the situation giving rise to it. This approach is referred to as the reappraisal method.

The ability to apply this method increased when the situation factor was diverted.  However, those in less than desirable surroundings (for example, poor environments) the approach is more difficult to exercise.

To tame your emotions, learn to change your focus when a situation is beyond your control. Avoid over-thinking,  internalizing, and focus your attention on what is within your control.